I saw a story today that was good, sweet and idealistic and I liked it in spite of the fact that it could not possibly apply to everyone; after all, it was an IDEAL. When I tried to make that point my comments were deleted. The fellow who posted it is a really nice guy and means well so I am not angry with him. He was making a point about how girls should act, (girls with loving families and friends and marraige prospects), and he could also say the same thing about boys as well….
….so here it is:
The story was about a girl refusing to continue communicating with a guy via a cell phone. In the story she is used as an example of proper Muslima behaviour. The graphics were of a girl, (not a woman), but the message was that women should not talk to men, even via long distance mechanisms like cell phones, and this also implies computers and I-pads and such. Likewise, males should also not speak to females as the same rules should, in all fairness, apply to both…why the story had the guy acting like a dog and the girl like an angel I guess is rooted in culture.
This story is posted on Facebook where men and women can both comment and maybe if they use alot of holy words it is OK for men and women to comment in the same place, to each other, on the same story. But the story says they should not be communicating.
Here I need to make a point: if you are on Facebook and online and talking to a female and you are male and you believe in strict sharia then what are you doing here? In a perfect world you should have only family members in your list and even certain family members are off limits for you to speak with.
Ok what about things that you want to accomplish?
You want to preach the word?
Well here on Facebook you will be talking to women not in your family.
So you can reach them by deleting valid points?
Many people do not NEED Facebook they have family and friends with them 24/7. They have love and support and health and all their needs met even if they cannot see when life is good, (because we are ALL human, like that), when things are not exactly as we desire.
Maybe you are a musician or an artist and this forum lets you have expression. You will be talking with people all over the world. So guys cannot talk to females, (unless maybe they are not Muslim), and girls cannot talk to anyone even if they are amazing artists?
But what about people with few or no people in their lives? What about those that are more alone than you can imagine and the only thing lacking are the physical BARS made of steel because of physical ‘bars’ made of illness; no one to hold a sad hand or speak to a sad soul except here on this box? What rules should we be held to then and who makes those rules and how? What if you consider yourself as ‘travelling’ because you are the only Muslim you get to see, with rare and brief exceptions, because people live very very far away and many American Muslims are liberal anyway and have no problem talking to whomever they please. This includes people like me….the forgotten ones.
I will tell you this now…the angels in my life are not extremely ‘holy’ and not all of them are Muslim and most of them are sinners just like me…and no matter how good hearted the holy ones are they cannot understand what they have not lived….